I am never gonna be slim

I cant do this.
I start the day off so well and then i get home and i just eat everything!
i feel so poo that i am sat here in tears whilst eating and not even hungry!
I want to be slim for my wedding. I wanted to have lost weight for xmas and i wanted to be able to wear a nice dress at my friends wedding in two weeks time and i cant find anything to wear that fits!

stop right there honey you can do this!!and you know you can,maybe you should make up some quiches or have some yoghurts to hand..

its so hard.
We have no money to get anything.
All we have in the freezer are MASSIVE chicken breasts and i dunno what to do with them as i have nothing to cook them in.
We have no money till 20th november when hubs gets paid.
I just feel so shitty right now!

First of all a big :hug99:. Secondly, you are not alone! I feel like this quite often. I have given in before, and like you, I have beenin tears wondering why I keep sabotaging myself! The only thing that has stopped me from doing it was my mate!

We have been Best friends since we were 14. She has always been slimmer than me. Don't get me wrong, she never rubs it in as such. She has put on weight recently so we joined SW within a week of each other. She has been not so good on the plan but has still lost, wherehas I have only had the occaisional day off and I have gained. But it was her "smug" text the other day saying that she is now a size 16 that really got me. I thought, do you know what, I am going to be slimmer than you!!

What I am trying to say is that everyone needs a trigger. We need to keep some sort of thought or image in our minds so that when we want to cheat/sabotage ourselves/whatever you want to call it, then we can recall that image, go and clean our teethe and then move on without reaching for the biscuit tin.

I know you want to be slim for your wedding. Maybe if you find your "dream" dress, then that could be your trigger image.

Of course, I could be talking absolute bo""ocks but it helps me

Fatty_no_more said:

its so hard.
We have no money to get anything.
All we have in the freezer are MASSIVE chicken breasts and i dunno what to do with them as i have nothing to cook them in.
We have no money till 20th november when hubs gets paid.
I just feel so shitty right now!

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Do you have any spices in, like cajun seasoning?

Fatty_no_more said:

its so hard.
We have no money to get anything.
All we have in the freezer are MASSIVE chicken breasts and i dunno what to do with them as i have nothing to cook them in.
We have no money till 20th november when hubs gets paid.
I just feel so shitty right now!

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right so youve got the basics for a good red day couldnt you do roast chicken,stir fry with veggies,what about a wholesome soup,thats cheap and easy to make

SpaceAngel said:

I know you want to be slim for your wedding. Maybe if you find your "dream" dress, then that could be your trigger image.

Of course, I could be talking absolute bo""ocks but it helps me

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found my dress... but was 14 stone when i tried it on. am tipping the scales at 17 now.
Pics are in my profile.

I duno i just seem to go round in circles.
I am going to be starting 12 hour shifts next week at work and am dreading knowing what to do for food then!
x

victoria sponge said:

right so youve got the basics for a good red day couldnt you do roast chicken,stir fry with veggies,what about a wholesome soup,thats cheap and easy to make

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had stir fry last night but then had all the crisps in the house and more.

I just cant do it i dunno why i want to but i just cant. I dont even know why i just think sod it and then reach and eat!

Ah Poppet. There's always a way forward, and you ARE going to be slim. One day at a time. I have no right to be writing this as I had a good old moan earlier this week, but with some reassessment I'm feeling much happier and doing much better. This will happen for you too.

I actually think that sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to start climbing again. if you get to feeling completely crap then it forces you into action instead of dawdling along on 50% I'm sure this will happen for you too.

At the end of the day, only you can do this, but it will also be you who reaps the benefits; feeling more confident, more attractive, more valuable. Think about how it will feel to walk into a shop and pick up jeans that will look good regardless of size or fit. Think about your fiances face when he sees you coming towards him at your wedding - the pride and the joy. You can do this. And you will.

Eat now. Sod it. Cry more too if you need to, but tomorrow get up and get on with it.

Can you spice / herb up your chicken? Coat it in brown sauce as a marinade. What about spuds? Cheap, but the best food in the world.

Go for it. You've been an inspiration to me, and I'm sure many others as well. One off day doesn't maketh the babe! x

Fatty_no_more said:

had stir fry last night but then had all the crisps in the house and more.

I just cant do it i dunno why i want to but i just cant. I dont even know why i just think sod it and then reach and eat!

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you can do it im sure of that ,dont have anything in the house thats naughty..go back to basics,write everything down make up some syn free food and snack on them when you get in..i feel so useless as i dont know what to suggest really,hate it when friends are struggling..

thanks girls.. You are all so great!
i think i am gonna have to go out and get some food lol.
Not bad food.
Good food to see me through the weekend as I am on my own over the weekend.
Hubs2b is working 16 hour shifts to be able to pay for hte wedding and once i have passed my EMD course (dispatching ambulances and giving advice to 999 callers) i can do the overtime.
Gonnna have a look at my website with all my food i made and then go from there.
Also forgot i love spag bol made with quorn and that I have!!!!
Thanks girls. The ovans on now. Just need some chopped tomatoes!!!!
x

Hi hun, sorry to hear you are feeling this way, I've been there.

Have you tried green days? I find them cheaper than red days, buy a huge sack of spuds (dirty ones are cheap) and go create. Also, sure you know but you can get SW for free through your Doctor (in certain areas) have you looked into it?

You will do this hun, you know you can xxx

Hi hun you know I am crying now typing this I am exactly the same. You go to bed at night after yet another day of starting off good then eating rubbish by the end of the day thinking right tomorrow is a fresh new start. Wake up next morning eat a healthy breaky then by dinner its all gone to pot so you think aagh I spoilt today will start a fresh tomorrow and so it goes on.

I hate the fact I can put on half a stone in a week. I hate the fact that I find a focus set my mind on being good then all of a sudden I have eaten a multi pack of crisps with out even remembering going to get them out of the kitchen.

To be honest I think I need Anti depressants again maybe when they start kicking in and make me feel better I will be in the better frame of mind for dieting.

Hun what I am saying is you are not alone in this I know exactly what your going through just make sure you keep coming on here for support.

Aww Son, huge hug for you too mate, I know it doesn't help though.

I've been there, lets face it - we've all got psychological problems when it comes to food, it's just a case of understanding them.

As someone else said earlier, you need to try and find that "trigger" point. Mine happened last week when OH said something along the lines of "you can't lose weight, you never stick to SW"....... now I am showing him!!

Try making a list of what you do and don't want to be, make small steps and build upon your success xxx

honey i posted a three bean chilli on the recipe thread its,cheap to make freezer friendly,filling, free on a green day and bloody tasty..you can do this honey love and hugs x

oh wheres that? thanks guys and sonban I have messaged you!
I have popped on my chick pea and aubergine bake and its cooking so i can have it tomorrow evening and i love that so i can look forward to it!

x

Sonban

Hi sonban the doc at weight management put me back on Prozac even though i am not depressed at the moment.He said to keep me on an even keel while trying to lose weight.Must be working cos i feel very positive,and have lost every week for 13 weeks!So not like me.Go back to see him next week for Orlistat(again!)Said he would discuss banding/bypass with me,Like others its keeping it off that is so hard.:sigh:

If you've still got some chicken breasts, try simmering them in stock. I used to do that, simmer the chicken in the stock then use the simmering juices as a sort of gravy (you can thicken slightly with cornstarch if you want). Serve with vegetables. The chicken comes out really moist and flavourful. You can just cover it in stock, put a lid on and cook in a slow oven that way too. Maybe use the leftover juice as a base to a tasty soup.

I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad (and you Sonban). There's nothing anyone can do to take away the miseries sometimes. But know that there are lots of us here to lend a shoulder and listen to what's bothering you.

As for having no money, look around for the bargains. At the moment, Morrison's are doing Branston Baked Beans, 2 for 50p. Tesco and ASDA have Pasta-n-Sauce on offer. Tesco is 4 for £2 and I think ASDA are doing 5 for £2. They're lovely with some chopped veg or frozen peas cooked in with them, and cheap too! Same with the savoury rices... served with some stir fried veg (a little veg goes a long way in a stir fry!)

Wipe those tears away... tomorrow is another day. And it's gonna be a good one.

Thank you one and all. i still feel down but trying to pick myself up. i made my chick pea stew last night for tonight and then realised that i'm going to my friends house 4 dinner. she eats healthy so even if its not on sw i know i'll be ok there. i was speaking with sonban and Stacey on msn last night and we're all gonna try and keep in touch and spur each other on. i need to do this. x

((( ))) hun we all have times like this but u can do it hun. i know its hard when u have no money god i've been there so many times but i find sw the cheapest diet out there.
i think lots of us start the day good and end up bad i think the key is having lots healthy snacks prepared to eat when u need them and eating more a meal times. why not try posting a list of every item of food u have in the house and the people here can throw ideas for meals at u.
as for something to wear to your friends wedding why not try looking on the clothes thread.
hun your wedding is 9 months away at a pound a week thts 2.5 stone aleast imagine how amazing u will look hun. u just need to find that little thing that gives u the yes i can do this.
and most of all pls don't beat yourself up when u have a bad day slimming is dam hard its so much easier to say u know what i don't care but u have already took the amazing step of trying to lose weight to make a happier u and yes its hard and yes things don't always go to plan but still u have said u will do this and that makes u amazing like all the people on here. u can do this hun and i know u will look forward to seeing those wedding pic