Okay I swore this would never happen but some of my old habits are creeping back up -
It's very easy done. Our lives are made up of little rituals. When you were on a tfr, you made a new ritual that didn't include food. You made a new wiring, but the old wiring concerning food is still there. Now you need to tackle that.
You see, your tfr wiring said "can't have food...won't have food", but once you are allowed to have food, it goes to the wire that says "can have, will have food"
If you imagine a chain. You do X and then Y, then Z. It all follows through. You have to break that chain.
The best way of doing it, is to interrupt it mid process. Wanting something you should have is good. Yes really. It gives you a chance to work on a new ritual. The more you work on it, the stronger it gets and the better you get at resisting.
So, you say to yourself that you can have something...but not just yet. You remind yourself what you are trying to do. Don't need to distract yourself...in fact, I believe that isn't a good idea. You just have to be in peace with it...but...you do have to practise 'stopping'. Find yourself going towards something that you really shouldn't have and
stop....just
stop
We are so used to wanting food = having food. I know if the circumstances are right; kids in bed, time to relax, I could find myself just going and eating something off plan almost robotically. I taught myself that want=have.
Thing is, the chain is longer than that. It's 'circumstances are right/want/go to get/prepare to eat/take a bite/take another bite'. If you can stop it during the first part of the chain, you will learn a new trick, but you have to keep trying, keep reinforcing it.
OH my...not explaining myself well. Got a crashing headache
Okay...so you really need to stop and 'want'. Sit with yourself for a moment. Put in a pause. Agree with yourself that there is nothing wrong with 'wanting', and now you have an opportunity to change that wiring or chain. You can make 'want' = 'pause' or 'not having'.
Give yourself 15 minutes or so. Just don't grab the food.
If after 15 minutes you are still sure you must have, then I guess you must, but you have put in that pause, and gone someway towards rewiring which will not only help now, but will see you well into the future.
Waffle, waffle. Hope this makes sense
I seem to want to eat constantly after my daughter is going to bed and I cant say no to myself... During the day I say right tonight yur going straight to bed and you just have to tell your self no. And what do I do? Eat 2 apples and a granola bar Has anyone any advise before I start gaining weight again?[/quote]