Mixed Emotions

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Xanth

Cambridge Diet Counsellor
Feeling a bit down at the moment and wanted reassurance that it would pass :(

Everyone keeps saying to me "you must be so proud of yourself", "you look fantastic" etc etc. Most of the time I love the compliments, but at the moment I feel like saying, no I'm not proud of myself. I'm totally disgusted. I can't believe I got so big in the first place. I'm disgusted that I'm going to end up having surgery and I'm disgusted that I've lost nearly a 100 pounds and still look like someones before photo :( :(

Sorry to be depressing. Did anyone else feel the same, and does it pass??

Sarah x
 
Oh honey i cannot believe it!! Look how much weight you have lost that is just phenomenal!!

No point criticising why you put so much weight on, you can't change that! All that matters is what you're doing about it now and you are doing wonders girl!!

Chin up honey, you should feel sooooo proud!
 
Xanth said:
Feeling a bit down at the moment and wanted reassurance that it would pass :(

Everyone keeps saying to me "you must be so proud of yourself", "you look fantastic" etc etc. Most of the time I love the compliments, but at the moment I feel like saying, no I'm not proud of myself. I'm totally disgusted. I can't believe I got so big in the first place. I'm disgusted that I'm going to end up having surgery and I'm disgusted that I've lost nearly a 100 pounds and still look like someones before photo :( :(

Sorry to be depressing. Did anyone else feel the same, and does it pass??

Sarah x
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Hi Sarah,

I went through the same as this big time last April and felt so mad at myself for getting so big and wasting all those years putting my life on hold and when everyone was giving me compliments I really felt I did not deserve them as I still had so far to go.

Then I let my chatterbox go on and on until I lost the plot and found it very difficult to get back into the right frame of mind again.

So all I can say to you is not let the passed have this hold any longer over you.

Today is a new day and you can now change the future, but whilst we are stuck with the same past we do have the ability to let it go.

The future is bright and you have done so well you have to claim it for yourself...this is yours.

Hugs...it is a tough one.

Love Mini xxx
 
I can understand how frustrating it must be for you. We all have that frustration to a degree, our own fight against our weight.

I must admit when i saw myself at my highest in a shopping malls mirror... that was the point when i realised.. i'd turned into a short fat housewife! I'd always had an image in my head.. it'd been there for ages.. and there i was in jeans walking boots and a fleece.. rolls of fat evident...
THAT was the day I started my diet. THAT was the day my journey began.

You ARE doing fantasticly well, every little lb that is lost is another step.
Have a look at some photo's of your before and during.. and I'm Sure you'll see the difference that everyone is commenting on, and that you know now, that you CAN lose the weight.. it'll just need a little longer.

and as for surgery.. it won't be so bad.. no so bad as a heart bypass or whatever if you hadn't have lost the weight! (this is meant positively). ((hugs))

Be PROUD of your journey! you are taking charge of your life now, and that is your accomplishment.
 
Thank you ladies. I knew you would talk some sense into me. Mini you hit the nail on the head - that is exactly how I feel.

I am proud of myself really and I wouldn't not do the diet. I intend to carry on to goal.

I just can't beleive how bad I let myself get.

I just have to learn to let go of the past and look to the future :)
 
Oh dont feel too down

My belief is weight gain is down to more than 'pigging out' ie it has a deeper more profound reasons.

Only you may be at the moment fighting against yourself to acknowledge the reasons behind the weight gain and drawing it all on yourself.

Be kind to yourself. You are going extremely well. Your former weight is a small part of the bigger picture here.

Ivy
 
See.. that's better! ((hugs)) you'll be fine! :D
 
Hi
I know exactly what you mean, I go through phases like this too, yeah you are glad you have lost the weight, but also disgusted that I got that big to need to lose that much.

It does pass, don't think back, just think forward. Yeah you weight x amount, but now you don't and wont again.

Big Hugs, 'cause sometimes thats what we need more than a compliment.
Mel :) ;)
 
i think thats one of our biggest problems is low self worth yes you put a lot of weight on but losing over a 100lb is amazing i just can not put it in the right words my weight is 17st oops my weight is16st 4lb so it might be a while until i reach a 100lb but if you can i know i can thanks for making me realise i could lose that much xxx donna:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
 
(((((((((sarah)))))))))) everyone who's ever had a weight problem will have felt like you do at some time.

If I spent too much time looking back over my shoulder at the wasted 40 years of being overweight I'd be a very miserable person and would never achieve anything. Mini is sooo right, we can't change our past, but we can do something about our future and that's exactly what you're doing so BRILLIANTLY right now.

Hey, girl, give yourself a HUGE pat on the back - you really are a SUCCESS :D :D :D :D
 
I remember going through the initial phase where I was chuffed to nuts with my weight loss, so much so that I actually started looking at myself in mirrors, reflections, shadows, anything etc etc :rolleyes:

It was then that I finally faced up to what I actually looked like, what I had been avoiding facing by not looking at myself or having my photo taken.

I can't begin to tell you how depressed I was then because I realised just how bad I must have been at my worst :(

All I can say is that it was a phase and I came through it...and then went through it again and then came through that :D

All I can hope is that you find the strength to continue on your journey rather than looking for an excuse to feel bad and posibly self sabotage.

Keep going, you are doing so well and you will come through this if you want to ;)
 
Thanks ladies :)

I know I should be pleased with myself and I'm sure I will be. You're right there's no point dwelling on the past and, no, I'm not ever going to get like that again. It amazes me that I managed to get sooo big and not really notice til it was too late!!!
I just really wanted reassurance that other people felt like this and I would get over it. I still see myself as 7 stone heavier in my head. When I look in the mirror I can't see it. But when I look at photos, sometimes I don't recognise myself. Yesterday at work a lady offered to get me a white lab coat and my immediate reaction was "you won't get one to fit me!!" and when she asked my size I said a 30/32, and I haven't been that size for ages!!!!
I think I've lost weight so quickly my brain hasn't had time to adjust.
Thanks everyone for your kind comments. I'm sure I will be feeling good about myself soon :) :)
 
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Xanth hun,good morning was just reading your post and i wanted to congratulate u big time on your weight loss.
97 lbs "wow" that is something else,u should seriously proud of yourself that is a serious achievment.

The most i have ever lost is 5 stone and i can honestly tell you that i felt the same,because i still had loads more to lose.Others saw the difference in me but i still saw the same old me.
One thing that helped me change the way i looked at myself is that i went to the hairdressers and totally transfromed myself with a new hair colour and hair style so when i finally got dressed up to go out and checked myself in the mirror i thought to myself "gosh what a difference".

You need to feel proud of your self for the sheer determination you have had to enable you to lose the 100 lbs in a short amount of time.Maybe treat yourself go out and get yourself pampered or try on some clothes that u would of never worn when u were heavier.

Just remember your goal weight is not far away so just keep motivated and positive.
Hope u have a good day xxx
 
Hi, well done for realising you are changing! Just the drop in sizes is a major achievement.. You're head will catch up! ((hugs))
 
God I feel like that right now. I have lost a lot & I'm nearing the end 20lbs or so to go, but I'm finding it so hard now. I have a saggy belly, massive bingo wings & awful truely awful legs. I have people telling me I've lost enough & should stop now, & I'm still wanting to get to my goal weight. I can't believe I allowed myself to get so fat
 
Funny how we assume that losing weight will make everything ok :) I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels like this though. I've always managed to lose 4 stone before and that was my stumbling block. I was convinced I was never going to lose more than 4 stone. Now I've got to 7 stone I feel like I'm actually going to make it to my target, and I hate to admit it but I think that actually scares me a little bit (yes I know it's mad). I suppose I've hidden behind my weight for so long and used it as an excuse not to do anything, what will I blame everything on when I make it to target???

My Stars made me smile today anyway

VIRGO
August 24th - September 23rd
You're in a determined frame of mind, working hard to reach a specific goal. All it will take is a spurt of inspired action before you start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Once you do reach your target - and this will be sooner than you think - you will stand back and be amazed by your achievements.

Thanks Russell Grant :rolleyes:
 
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