When the carrot doesnt work !?!?

Hi Everyone

I've been gaining and losing the same 3lb ish over the last 7 or 8 weeks and last week I managed to get to 2lb away from my stone sticker. All well and good but that seemed to pile the pressure on more for getting my stone sticker this week as another 2lb could have been do-able.

This week has been ok, syns a bit high yesterday but apart from that ok. Today though I think the whole stress of weigh in tomorrow has driven me mad and led to a binge.

I just wonder if I put too much pressure on myself to hit certain targets ? I've had my stone sticker present to myself in its amazon package waiting for me to achieve in order to open it and perhaps thats another incentive thats strangly making me do worse. I'm thinking perhaps I'll treat myself to it anyway (its a cookbook) tomorrow night (or would that be me doomed ?)...... almost like I need the present to get over this hurdle and move on!

My consultant joked last week that I dont seem to have two weeks losses in a row and its right, its a very rare event for me right now. How can I get over this hurdle ?

I dont even think I'm making sense anymore !!! Thanks for listening anyway

To complete the story, I gave myself my stone present a lovely cookbook Red velvet and chocolate heartache. I seem to bungee away from the stone award just as I get within gripping distance of it. Having goals does not work for me. I'm putting less emphasis on the numbers from now on and just focussing on sticking to plan (thats the only goal..... which is hopefully a non-goal goal and I can do that!).

Ooh I really Want that book. Are the recipes good for syns? X

I think your new non-goal sounds like a good plan! Just focus on doing and eating the right things and not about the numbers. Perhaps using a tapemeasure and record your achievements in lost inches may help?


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I'm exactly like you Gobolino! Every time I tried to lose weight for an event I'd somehow sabotage my efforts, all the while thinking frantically, one more month, three more weeks, ONE MORE WEEK!!!! Same with target weights, two more pounds, one more pound, half etc etc etc. And then I have an aaaarrrrggghhh moment and throw my hands up and admit defeat! Over the last year though, I've taken a kinder, more holistic approach to weight loss. I have in mind what I would like to lose and roughly by when but there's no event taking place and no pressure to get there by that time, you know. You're definitely on the right track just sticking to the plan without those targets as a burden. Just take it one day and one week at a time. Good luck!

Hello all,

Thanks for your help Yep HoneyOC its the kinder more holistic approach I'm going to be taking. I've realised that I wouldnt talk to a friend the way I talk to myself if I've slipped up a little, so why be so horrid to myself !!!

Flark, I did take my measurements at the beginning and I do actually find that quite motivating as there is quite a difference and do you know what even when my weight varies hugely between the days I still seem to maintain the inch loss and fit into things much better.

Julesm the book is gorgeous..... I love it. There are some calories for each cake put at the back of the book so you could work out syns from there, but they work out even lower if you calculate from scratch as you can leave out any calories for the veggies

Thanks again all, pleased to report I'm a much happier Gobolino today