Bit fed up...

-Tally-

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I've been having therapy for the weight thing via my GP (3 sessions) and was referred to weight management. They agreed that therapy would be the best course of treatment and referred me on to a specialist psychiatrist dealing with eating disorders after they diagnosed me with binge eating disorder.

I had my assessment with weight management last week and it went really well. I got a letter today saying that I had been discharged from them as I'm doing slimming world and don't fit the criteria as I am not currently binge eating. They said to put me on the waiting list was to assume that I would fail at slimming world and they didn't want to give me any negative reinforcements. If I start binge eating again they will reassess me and use the initial assessment date as my date for the waiting list, meaning I wouldn't lose my place in the queue.

Now I know I'm lucky in the sense that I'm pretty switched on to Slimming World at the mo and am holding my own and lost weight quite quickly BUT it kinda feels like cos I'm trying to help myself, I don't get their help too...which I absolutely believe would be hugely beneficial to me. So to get their help I have to be binging. I know others will need the place in the queue who haven't got a handle on things but it's just made me feel a bit fed up now. I have no intentions of stopping SW so I can't see me ever getting the therapy that I think I need to sort my head out. Just because I'm not binging, doesn't mean I'm all fixed.

Moan over...

On a more positive note, my kitchen is fitted and nearly finished, just awaiting decoration/tiles/new floor and I escaped the week unscathed with my healthy eating in tact, now I just have to get through my holiday next week and I'll be delighted :D
 
I don't know what to say really, you obviously still need some form of help. I'm sorry I can't offer any help.
 
TheMissus said:
I've been having therapy for the weight thing via my GP (3 sessions) and was referred to weight management. They agreed that therapy would be the best course of treatment and referred me on to a specialist psychiatrist dealing with eating disorders after they diagnosed me with binge eating disorder.

I had my assessment with weight management last week and it went really well. I got a letter today saying that I had been discharged from them as I'm doing slimming world and don't fit the criteria as I am not currently binge eating. They said to put me on the waiting list was to assume that I would fail at slimming world and they didn't want to give me any negative reinforcements. If I start binge eating again they will reassess me and use the initial assessment date as my date for the waiting list, meaning I wouldn't lose my place in the queue.

Now I know I'm lucky in the sense that I'm pretty switched on to Slimming World at the mo and am holding my own and lost weight quite quickly BUT it kinda feels like cos I'm trying to help myself, I don't get their help too...which I absolutely believe would be hugely beneficial to me. So to get their help I have to be binging. I know others will need the place in the queue who haven't got a handle on things but it's just made me feel a bit fed up now. I have no intentions of stopping SW so I can't see me ever getting the therapy that I think I need to sort my head out. Just because I'm not binging, doesn't mean I'm all fixed.

Moan over...

On a more positive note, my kitchen is fitted and nearly finished, just awaiting decoration/tiles/new floor and I escaped the week unscathed with my healthy eating in tact, now I just have to get through my holiday next week and I'll be delighted :D

That's terrible. You should still get help only as ur doing sw your mind is still obviously not happy. Sorry to hear your struggling. Hope your ik xx
 
alfsmummy11 said:
That's terrible. You should still get help only as ur doing sw your mind is still obviously not happy. Sorry to hear your struggling. Hope your ik xx

Sorry your body is doing sw but not your mind xx
 
Ah, the mind is too a bit, but I know what I'm like and still think I'd benefit from it long term if that makes any sense...least I'm in a good frame of mind at the mo, just seems unfair that you can't help yourself and receive help from outside too. It's supposed to be an excellent program.
 
TheMissus said:
Ah, the mind is too a bit, but I know what I'm like and still think I'd benefit from it long term if that makes any sense...least I'm in a good frame of mind at the mo, just seems unfair that you can't help yourself and receive help from outside too. It's supposed to be an excellent program.

I know. You should be able to get both. Sorry you can't xx
 
I can really understand why your so p1ssed off - that decision stinks. Of course you should be offered the therapy despite the fact you're doing sw. It is like you've been penalised for taking steps to manage your problem yourself. Go figure.(((Big hugs))) honey.
 
I think with therapies they can be very cautious about not providing conflicting support. I was with an excellent counsellor and making good progress but when I was offered a starting date for CBT the counsellor dropped me like the proverbial hot brick because she didn't want to be distracting from and conflicting with what I would be doing there. Shame coz I think I would have made much better progress with the counsellor.

Look at it this way, you are doing ok at the moment and managing to control things. That's a really positive step. What it doesn't do however is help you to identify the root cause of why you binge eat and what triggers you to do that. It is my guess that you probably know those things already, or if you don't, you can most likely work them out with a bit of soul searching.

I think, if you don't already, you should keep a daily diary of your food intake and your feelings and emotions, and how you handle any potential triggers as they occur. Become your own therapist and take control of the management of your behaviour. The worst that can happen is that the bingeing will recur, in which case you can go back in good conscience to the weight management programme and ask for your support to be reinstated. The best that can happen is that you will teach yourself that you can do this, and that you can beat this by yourself. And that's a fantastic lesson when it comes to building your self-esteem and confidence.

I think you can do this. Just take it one hour, one day, and one week at a time. You have all the support you can possibly need right here. Xx
 
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