So, I was thinking about how/when I started caring so much what other people think of me (looks, my work, personality, if I'm a good mum/person/friend)...some people, my husband being one, don't really care what most people think of them. They only care what the people who they respect/admire/like think of them. I, on the other hand, have in the past been obsessed by what someone who I actually disliked thought of me. It gave that person an awful lot of power over me-- they knew their sneering glances and rude ignoring was affecting me and enjoyed knocking my confidence. As this was a work situation, it was daily. Tough.
I was thinking how now, I am learning (in the infancy stages) to not actually give that power to people who mean nothing to me and whose opinion of me shouldn't matter. I still care what my friends/family/some colleagues think of me but I'd like to get to a stage where my *perceived* idea of what they think of me (usually negative) doesn't lead me to question myself and doubt my actions. Mostly, this takes place in the replaying of every conversation, etc. It was very very bad a few years ago when I had major depression.
I just had those thoughts today and I wondered how others deal with the issue of what people think of them (weight/size or otherwise)...
I was thinking how now, I am learning (in the infancy stages) to not actually give that power to people who mean nothing to me and whose opinion of me shouldn't matter. I still care what my friends/family/some colleagues think of me but I'd like to get to a stage where my *perceived* idea of what they think of me (usually negative) doesn't lead me to question myself and doubt my actions. Mostly, this takes place in the replaying of every conversation, etc. It was very very bad a few years ago when I had major depression.
I just had those thoughts today and I wondered how others deal with the issue of what people think of them (weight/size or otherwise)...