so upset

Janine 40

Janine 40

Full Member
I am so so upset, i can't say why as it is too painful and awkward to write, it all boils down to my mum and her lack of interest in me and how she is so quick to judge when she gave me so little as a child and now here in adulthood she is the same, (those pursed lips say it all) how can a mother be so mean??

Thanks for listening guys, love you all.

xxx
 
big squishy huggles xxx
 
Big *hugs*
I'm sorry your mum treats you like that. I'm affraid i have seen the other side of life where parents arent the loving, caring people you think of when you think of mum/dads. ( not me personally) but many of my friend have come from mean parents/families.

Im sorry she has made you feel so so upset.
 
IreneH said:
Big hugs to you.

Have you tried talking to her about it?
Irene xx
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Irene

o how i would it to work like that with my mum!! How do i talk about sexual abuse at the age of 2 and 8, being in care, i won't elaborate more because she put me in those places and she will never admit its why i have so many struggles. Its just a bad day because i saw her yesterday and she never even offered me a cup of tea!!

Sorry if that sounds heavy,i don't look for sympathy, it just wrecks my head when i see her and still she shows me so little love or time. On paper and to her friends i am the best thing since sliced bread as i have letters after my name.

Much love.


J. xxx
 
o guys, i do not want to put a downer on yr day, i am generally happy go lucky, it is just when i see my mum!! Sometimes the truth hurts and i feel sorry for her as she does not know how to love me.

R thank you for all your concern, do not mean to bring you all down.

xx Big love and kiss. xxx
 
Gosh honey you sound like you need one of the worlds biggest hugs right now! ((((((Hugs))))))

I am so sorry that you are treated like this, nobody & I mean nobody deserves to go through that, never mind the repercussions later that it has impact on.

I hope that you are alright, if you do need to offload, then we're here for you & please don't worry you will put us in a downer. x x
 
IreneH said:
Have you had any counselling about what happened to you? It might help

Irene xx
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till it comes out of my ears, practice CBT, but nothing is as harsh as seeing her and knowing the front she puts on and why oh why would she have a front when i leave such a bad taste in her mouth. I am ok until i see her then it is all downhill. She looks at me like i am a bad taste in her mouth!!

I think its hard cos i look at my relationship with my little 14 yr old, she is 5.1 and hates it but we laugh about it and go shopping to suit her little height!!

U all know i am feeling better now with you lot and your support and you have brought a little smile to my face, thank you ALL SO MUCH.

Big kiss.

J. xx
 
so many thank yous and good wishes.lots of love to you all and a BIG MASSIVE< ALL MY LOVE> XXX

Your friend Janine. xx

Thank you so much. xxx
 
You poor love.

Thank goodness your own bad experiences have not affected your relationship with your daughter. You must be a fantastic mum. Your daughter must love you to bits and pieces.

Hugs from me too,

hugs and love xxxxxxxxxx
 
hi janine sorry to hear about how ur mum treats u x i was very lucky to have a very loving mum and dad perhaps it's in ur best interest not to see her just concentrate on ur own family (sorry thats probably easier said then done) ur mum's going to be the one that loses out. what about ur dad do u see him, how is ur mum with ur daughter? perhaps she doesn't know how to show love, i hope you can stay strong thro this and just know we r all here for you xx
 
Gettingthinnerbytheday said:
Gosh honey you sound like you need one of the worlds biggest hugs right now! ((((((Hugs))))))

I am so sorry that you are treated like this, nobody & I mean nobody deserves to go through that, never mind the repercussions later that it has impact on.

I hope that you are alright, if you do need to offload, then we're here for you & please don't worry you will put us in a downer. x x
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Thanks.

I am affraid there are way too many people in my life who have been SA as children and R****d as adults. ( have starred it out, habit from posting on SA forums)
The reality of this world is that many many more people are survivors of SA than you ever think. 1 in 3 women is the statistic.

related forums if this has brought it up for anyone
Pandora's Aquarium - an online support group for rape and sexual abuse survivors for survivors
The Supporters Sanctuary forum The Supporters sanctuary for friends and family

Im sorry for what you went through Janine, remember it wasn't your fault.
I'm with Avisk, dont see her...... but i know its not always that simple is it.

Feel free to PM me if you need a chat.

x x
 
Oi you!
*does massive run up and bear hug*
I have no idea what to say but you are a lovely lady and im very inspired and impressed with how you are and how despite everything that seems to have happened to you, you have become such a lovely person.
Always here x
katie
 
You are not alone, I have a crap relationship with both parents - so much so that I have ended contact as at the end of the day they are just people. You put meaning on to what is important, it can be hard as parental attachment is a big influence in other relationships. but remember you have your own family with your daughter and by the sounds of it an excellent relationship. Big hugs I know it may sound cold but it is only an opinion which is purly subjective you have choices in what you want to belief in x
 
Thank you

Such lovely kind words from all of you who don't know me from Adam yet have the time to care.

I will take on board all that you lot have said and i will remember the advice given. As far as seeing her goes, i go because i love to see my dad and i know he has no life with her, she "polices" his wine and cigarettes!!!

But hey ho you are all right, i have a beautiful daughter and son, i have the most wonderful husband, the best mother in law that a girl could wish for and a Guinea Pig called Stitch (big grin). I have such a lot to be thankful for.

Thank you all of you for your kindness, today will be a good day!!

Much love and hugs.

Janine. xxx :D
 
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