I don't know what to do?

13katrina

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Hi everyone.

Well I'll try to keep this short as I do sometimes have a tendancy to ramble.

Basically like many other people I've tried loads of diets with some success before letting it fall by the wayside. I've been a member of this site for a long time and dip in and out periodically.

Basically, I got married last month and when I returned from my honeymoon, I discovered I weighed 14 stones 6.5 pounds. I also had to buy a pair of size 18 jeans for home and a pair of size 18 black work trousers for work. This is all I have to wear. I managed to secure a nice bundle of tops off e-bay for a tenner to tide me over in that department.

In desperation I turned to the Cambridge Diet and started on Tuesday. OMG it's totally awful - I don't think I've ever felt quite so bad. The physical side effects while you wait for ketosis to kick in felt like they were going to kill me. Anyway, day 4, yesterday they started to pass and I did feel a lot better physically but mentally I felt a total mess. I hate not eating. My daughter went to my Mum's for dinner and I popped over for a cuppa - my Mum decided they would get a chippy take-away and asked if I would like anything - I said no but before I could even say that, my little girl who is only six said No Mummy you can't have that. Very sweet of her but it does make me wonder what kind of messages I'm sending her.

After that my mood deteriated massively and I felt awful for most of the evening and was in a foul mood. I ended up buying a cheeseburger happy meal which I ate at home with my husband (who ate a lot more, lol, but then isn't actually over-weight). I then had a cup of tea and 5 custard creams. It was totally yummy.

Today I feel so much better but I also feel so guilty for 'cheating' on the Cambridge Diet when I managed to get passed the physical symptoms. Now I really just don't know what to do. I don't know if I should get back on the wagon or just return to weight watchers. As I said before I've tried all sorts of diets but at the age of 16 I lost all the weight I needed to with WW and maintained until I feel pregnant with my daughter. Since her birth I've really struggled - I briefly got down to just under 12 stones with weight watchers in 2008 but once again it went by the wayside.

I want to lose weight and I know how ever I do it, it has to come from me. I'm fed up with how I feel and how I look and I'm def fed up with not having anything to wear post-honeymoon. I have a wardroble full of size 16 clothes that don't fit. So at the very least I need to make that my first goal.

Thanks for reading and well done if you got this far.

Hope everyone else is having a better day. I need to go now and take my daughter to a taster Brownies session - I think I'm going to volunteer as a helper too.

Katrina x
 
I know Cambridge works for a lot of people but I think you just need to find the right diet for you, could be Cambridge or it could be something totally different.

I tried and failed so many diets until I got this one, it is difficult because its part food replacement but I can still eat fruit, veg and low carb dinner at night but I still have days where I fall off the wagon, you just gotta get back on and keep going, a couple of hiccups is better then stopping trying all together
 
Why don't you go back to Weightwatchers, as you found it was right for you previously? Ok it won't be as fast as the Cambridge diet would be if you could stick to it, but it looks like you may not be able to, making WW perhaps a better bet.

And then perhaps stay with WW in the long term, as they can help you manage your maintenance.
 
Hey Katrina, sorry you are feeling so low. For me the first thing I have to tell myself when I start a diet is that I am an adult and I am making choices for me. I am allowed to eat whatever I want. I never say I can't have that about any food. If I decide not to accept something I say 'no thanks' out loud, and in my head say 'I am choosing not to have that'. I do sometimes choose to have things thatare not a typical part of my 'diet' but again it is my choice and I don't feel guilty. Tonight I am having an early celebration for my birthday. Friends are coming over and I will be having wine. I am really looking forward to it and have no intentions of feeling guilty. In four weeks I am going on holiday - and I will be eating whatever I like then too - and will definately be out of ketosis when I get back home. For me I am going to lose this weight I have allowed to pile on because I choose to and because I am worth it, but I also choose to have a treat now and again. Sorry I have rambled on and hijacked your post.

What I am trying to say is you WILL succeed on whatever plan you choose. Pat yourself on the back when you make healthy choices, and let yourself off the hook when the choices are less healthy. As long as the weight goes down over time you will have succeeded. You are a wonderful person, you are worth the effort and you have nothing to feel bad about, or guilty about.
 
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