I just dont understand!

I want and need to lose weight. Im so unhappy about my size and everyday i feel down either by seeing some clothes i like that are only stocked in "anorexic" sizes or simply seeing my reflection. I can do this diet (i lose the weight slowly but at least i lose it!) So why if i feel like this do i still eat all the crap in the house?!? i know your probably thinking "well dont buy the crap" but i cant help it with my other half not dieting and having a 3 year old. I just have no willpower even though im unhappy everyday about being fat. Iv got a wedding this weekend and i wanted to lose at least a stone (known about it for months) because i'll be seeing people i haven't seen in 3/4 years. But guess what iv eated crap again and again and iv lost nothing! iv actually put on
Im thinking of doing a non food shake diet again but i hated it last time even though it did work.
Sorry to go i just know you guys give good advise.

Hi hun, I know just how you feel. Im only rejoining today but you know this works and it isnt a starvation diet it is something the family can do. Just take one day at a time, its easier said than done but if you have a bad day just draw a line under it and move on, dont let a bad day turn into a bad week/month. You can do this you have done it before and we are all here to support you xxx

Have you got a local shop, I know it might be more expensive but at least for me anyways I feel tons better. I then can have something like a curly wurly, french fries or low syn lolly pop and my OH can eat what he fancies. I too can not have naughty food around I munch way through it regardless of not feeling hungray.

((Big Hugs))
Not sure what advice I can offer but didn't want to read and run. I'm the same as you - recently have truly discovered how much stress leads me to reach out for the junk food and lose my motivation.

Maybe you should write down a list of all your goals - why you want to lose the weight and mini goals in between. If you write this down and keep it somewhere you'll always see then it might motivate you to kick-start the plan again?
With the shakes - the only thing I'd worry about is what happens when you go back to eating normally again?
Hope everything works out xx

Don't go down the shake route, you'll just starve yourself which is no good & just make you feel worse.

I buy biscuits & other non SW friendly food in for OH & kiddies, but I put them on the top shelve where I can't see them. Ok so I know were they are, but because they are out of sight it doesn't seem to bother me.

If I want something sweet I'll have either a mullerlight yoghurt, polenta porridge with fruit, couscous with fruit or rice with fruit. The fruit I put in depends on how I'm feeling, I've got a variety of fruit in the freezer & it doens't take long to defrost.

Do you do EE or red/green days, if you've got two hexbs you could have an Alpen light for snacks, or Aldi do Savoury Bakes which are simlar to Ryvita I put yoghurt on these for a snack.

It is hard sometimes to stick to plan, I don't know why you eat crap again & again. You need motivation, you could try reading the before & after thread, or just tell yourself you can do this be positive.

Come on here more & read the threads, I find these help.

Even though I'm at target I still have to work at it; on Thursday we had WOTY which I found so motivating just listening to people on how losing weight had made a difference to their life. One girl had a photo of herself pre SW days & spoke about her in the third person & how that girl was depressed, lacked confidence, but now she doesn't suffer from depression & has lots of confidence.

You can do this.

Just thought of another thing I've read on here, some people have a syn tin where everything in there is X syns, would this work for you??????

thanks guys i just get so angry and upset with myself, especially when i seem to eat the rubbish here and there day after day. Iv got a white board in the kitchen so i might write a personal note/goals on there where i'll see them everyday. Thanks guys

My only advice could be to really give SW another chance - in the long run it'll be the best choice! If you hated the Food Shake diet last time, then I highly doubt this time'll be any different - and if you hate something, you're less likely to stick at it!

If you're eating 'crap' are you synning it? Do you write down all the food you eat in a Food Diary?

Maybe if you set yourself smaller targets, like we do in the Weight-Loss Teams that'd be easier? I know that it's the people on there, and the people who read my weight-loss diary who keep me on track and give me a kick up the bum when I need it! xxxxxx

i feel your pain bless you.
i to was like yourself, wanting to lose weight but not finding the motavation.
if im honest the first few weeks on slimming world were hard for me, changing diet and routine.
but i stuck to it, spurred on by this wonderful forum.
slimming world is great as you can still have syns, so you can still have your little treats daily.
i cant really offer to much advice just wanted to show my support to you and tell you , you can do this.
sometimes its the frame of mind your in, i think.
if you are stressed out or have issues it can be hard to get motavated maybe.
sending hugs to you

There is no reason why your other half and your 3yr old cant join in on food optimising, its not a diet, its healthy eating which EVERYONE can benefit from. If OH doesnt need to lose any weight then he can have his 'naughties' I would hope that out of respect for you, that he wouldn't sit eating crisps/chocolate and other things that you strugggle with in front of you! He should be supporting you and having these naughties when your not around, at least for the first few months. for me the first bit was the hardest, your going a bit cold turkey on the high sugar/fat etc in the crap food, and your body craves it. If you were trying to revcover from being say alcoholic, the first thing you'd do is get rid of all the alcohol from the home! wouldn't you?? just because eating crap is not in everyones mind the same level, to you it is, if its there, in a moment of weakness, you've eaten it. only takes one drink to fall off the alcoholic wagon and only one bar of choc for the cravings to kick back in.
I would try to remove all the crap, or have OH ave it in locked cupboard with him only having the key. As a 3yr old they shouln't be having crap anyway. all the optomising stuff is good for them too, with just added healthy extras for the fact he/she is growing.

You can do this, your doing this for you. stick with it

Think i used the wrong word because i was a bit upset. When i say crap i mean cheese, bread, biscuits, cakes that my little boy made with granny just general high syn things. Luckily we dont have crisps in the house (my all time favourite food!!) i could easily have a mullerlight or fruit when peckist but i dont and i dont know why. Maybe i just need a few weeks to really get into the zone

I was going to reply and then found that *honey had said everything I was going to say (and so much better!).

I know how you feel i was the same before slimming world, the great think about it is your family CAN eat the same meals as you, there are lots of recipes on here and books available. I brought a green days cook book and has lots of healthy low syn and syn free meal ideas. My kids have the same as me.
Now i do have problems with will power if something is in the house so i don't tend to buy anything that i would eat. Could you ask your other half to put his snacks where you cant find them or just ask him to buy them a couple of things at a time?
Some days i feel like poo but soon pick myself up as i know if i lose track then i will be unhappy like i was before.
Just stick to it you'll be so proud of yourself in the long run.
The shake route isn't a good one i tried for a quick fix before and got really ill. Also it doesn't teach you how to eat properly so chances of long term success aren't very good.
Chin up good luck xxx

Iv just spoken to my other half about all of this and he's gone out to but veg and fruit etc for me and he's getting a storage box for all naughty stuff to go in in the cupboard so they aren't right there infront of me.

pizzle84 said:

Iv just spoken to my other half about all of this and he's gone out to but veg and fruit etc for me and he's getting a storage box for all naughty stuff to go in in the cupboard so they aren't right there infront of me.

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You sound exactly like me, if i see it there in front of me i eat it even if im not hungry its mainly boredom for me i think, as soon as the kids are in bed im peckish and want food. I have 4 stone to loose. Its shopping day on Tuesday, so will be starting this on Wednesday. Good luck hun!

Im glad your other half has seen some sence and is going to help you. My other half likes his chocolate but he also wants to loose weight for our wedding (not that he really needs to but i guess he says the same to me lol) xxx

pizzle84 said:

Iv just spoken to my other half about all of this and he's gone out to but veg and fruit etc for me and he's getting a storage box for all naughty stuff to go in in the cupboard so they aren't right there infront of me.

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Hi hun, a few weeks back, i stopped doing SW as i couldnt even stick to it for one day, now im back 3 months later and 3 stone heavier, I'm lucky I dont have a job as I couldnt fit in to my work clothes if I wanted to! I dont want you in my situation of having to lose the weight all over again but....... I needed that break, i used to get so into SW that it was all I xcould think about! I obsessed over it!

Take ur books give the child a chocolate bar and kick the husband out or an hour and just relax and read through ur mags and books and get some inspiration back!

DOnt be too hard on ur self.

xxx

Im in exactly the same place as you, I know SW works if I follow it properly but I still put high syn foods in my mouth and think it will be alright. I nearly said "I cant help but put high value syns in my mouth" but the truth is I can when I focus. I want to be slim, I want baby number 2, I want o sell my house and a million other things but at the moment I need to take control of what I put in my mouth in order to control the one thing I can control. The rest will come in time but for now my weight is top of the list.
We can do it!

pizzle84 said:

I want and need to lose weight. Im so unhappy about my size and everyday i feel down either by seeing some clothes i like that are only stocked in "anorexic" sizes or simply seeing my reflection. I can do this diet (i lose the weight slowly but at least i lose it!) So why if i feel like this do i still eat all the crap in the house?!? i know your probably thinking "well dont buy the crap" but i cant help it with my other half not dieting and having a 3 year old. I just have no willpower even though im unhappy everyday about being fat. Iv got a wedding this weekend and i wanted to lose at least a stone (known about it for months) because i'll be seeing people i haven't seen in 3/4 years. But guess what iv eated crap again and again and iv lost nothing! iv actually put on
Im thinking of doing a non food shake diet again but i hated it last time even though it did work.
Sorry to go i just know you guys give good advise.

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Heya i know my advice may not be great here seeing as we are on two very opposite diets lol.. but i was recently in slimming world for 3 months to be exact and maintained down to the very pound.. the reason being i was not eating enough food and/or water... the diet does work however as i have friends there the same amount of time as myself and have lost 3 - 5 stone. u need to have faith in yourself hun..

A for TFR, i wouldn recommend that to anyone unless you know you can stick to it 100% im on the lipotrim and find it easier for losing weight as im better with less food intake or in this case none... Its a very hard diet and you would need to have great determination like any diet....however for maintaining my weight after losing it i will go back to slimming world...

Chin up girl, you will get there eventually. its good to have a lil rant every now and again, it keeps you sane lol xxx

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Heya i know my advice may not be great here seeing as we are on two very opposite diets lol.. but i was recently in slimming world for 3 months to be exact and maintained down to the very pound.. the reason being i was not eating enough food and/or water... the diet does work however as i have friends there the same amount of time as myself and have lost 3 - 5 stone. u need to have faith in yourself hun..

A for TFR, i wouldn recommend that to anyone unless you know you can stick to it 100% im on the lipotrim and find it easier for losing weight as im better with less food intake or in this case none... Its a very hard diet and you would need to have great determination like any diet....however for maintaining my weight after losing it i will go back to slimming world...

Chin up girl, you will get there eventually. its good to have a lil rant every now and again, it keeps you sane lol xxx

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I did lipotrim for 12 weeks and lot 3 stone which was great however i put 1 stone back on when i started eating again. I wouldn't go back to TFR because it is so unstable and you do put weight back on after but im just so low i suppose id do anything again just to see the next clothes size down!

boredom for me = eating. last few weeks the whole house has had a complete tidy and re arrange. kept me busy and stopped me eating. maybe find hobby?