Need a bit of reassurance

Have just checked my email to find a message from my mum along the lines of "You're going to get an email from someone at such-and-such private clinic. I spoke to them about you having a breast reduction. Here's some info they gave me. It sounds really good.". There was also the message she mentioned from this company. It is a well known company I'd already heard of.

Now don't get me wrong, as a woman with 34J breasts, I do very much want to have a reduction. However, I have a lot of hang ups about it. I have tried to look into it with both another private clinic and the NHS. The former didn't want to know as soon as they heard my weight/height, and the latter told me (and I'm quoting a female doctor here) - "Right now you're a big lady with big boobies, so first you need to be a little lady with big boobies, and then we can make you a little lady with little boobies". And yes, my mother knows about both of these situations.

I do logically understand that being heavier means more risks on the operating table, and I'm fine with that, it makes complete sense to me. I therefore did not plan to even ask about it again until I was close to my weight goal, which is still 4st away, so perhaps won't be asking again till a year from now.

My head is just really messed up now, I was buzzing about losing 2st in 3 months and feeling really good, but these emails have just filled my mind up with negative feelings about my body and my bust. Very much fighting the binge eating instinct right now!

Apologies for the long message, I could just really do with some reassurance from people who really do get my situation rather than all my skinny friends who don't really seem to get how hard it all can be. I am determined not to fall off the wagon from this, but I feel so low I daren't leave the house till the OH is home incase I buy food!

Esther.

Hi Esther,

Your weight loss so far has been brilliant so focus on that, concentrate on the hugely positive thing you are doing - losing weight and losing it sensibly.

Our body shape changes when we diet as I am sure you know, so like you say it might well be something you can think about in a year when you've lost the weight you want to. You may even end up with boobs which don't even need a reduction (I'm the same - big boobs they ain't never going nowhere!) but please don't let this make you turn to food as a comfort. You will not feel better for it honey.

Come on here and rant away - it's what we're here for and we ALL understand what you are going through

xxxx

I can totally relate to this. I also have gigantic knockers (was a 40G, but down to around 36FF with weight loss). I know I would never go under the knife simply because my fear of surgery totally outweighs my desire for,well not necessarily smaller boobies, but ones that sit where ladies boobies should sit without the aid of a very unsexy granny bra.
They do get me down sometimes though. I do quite like hoisting them up and shoving them out when I get tarted up,but at the end of the night when its time to get undressed I realise that no matter how slim and toned I get, i will still have these saggy bags of fat stuck to my front.And then theres the cost of bras (No cheap and cheerful, and certainly no sexy for us), sholder straps that make you bleed, backache, and idiots in clubs going "are they real?", yeah like Id choose them.
I would definitely say lose the wight first though. Firstly they may shrink with weight loss (not that knockers our size will ever point to the sky of their own accord), secondly their is ,of course, the increadsed risk that comes with excess weight in operations. Thirdly they will be able to give you boobies that suit your new body and compliment your new frame, but not if they dont know what it is. But most importantly youll be in a better place to decide what's best for you. You may find once you like your body more as a whole you can forgive your breasts, or it may make you even more determined to perfect that body with fabulous fun-bags.
But whatever you decide, stay positive, you're doing incredibly well, and don't forget we're here if you need us.
Take Care.

I can only echo what the others have already said.

Another well-endowed lass here, I've gone from a 38G to a 34G so far this year but there has definitely also been a loss of firmness which I'm not overjoyed about.

I too would be way too scared to consider going under the knife even if they end up down by my knees lol so I think you're kind of brave to even be considering it! I also kind of think that despite still having some wobbly bits, and some floppy bits, and definitely some wrinkled bits I'm kind of proud of my body. Yeah it has imperfections but they are all part and parcel of my life so far. Although I sometimes wish I could still wear a bikini, on the whole I am learning to love myself faults and all cos I'm me, and me is a valid, vibrant and interesting person.

Forget the surgery for now, and have a quiet word with your mum too. Let her know that you feel a bit upset and confused at the moment, and that you want to lose some weight and see how your body changes before you will be ready to make any decisions.