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lovelynaett

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Hello.
this is really coming from my heart and I don't where to turn...

I'm fat, overweight, obese or whatever you want to call it. I'm also addicted to food. I can't help myself, I have to eat every minute of everyday.

I don't know what is wrong with me. I know I could do it. I did it before, lost 5 stone on Lighter life. I was so happy I ate my way back to where i was before. Now 2 years on, I got back right where I started. People who only knew me then don't recognise me and if they do they is a look of pity in their eyes. The people who knew me before act like "hey I told you so, who can't be thin, it's you genes".

Today I can't take it anymore. I'm supposed to be on WW. Guess what I've lasted 2 weeks. I couldn't keep up, was missing all my ice cream and chocolate and s**t.

I don't know what to do. I set goals for myself and then I don't reach them only because I give up half way through. I have a cupboard full of pretty clothes that I can't wear anymore and everytime I look at them I hate myself a little bit more...

what is wrong with me, I'm there for anybody else but me.

I'm not asking for answers here but a few lights will be most welcome.

Naett
 
Hello.
this is really coming from my heart and I don't where to turn...

I'm fat, overweight, obese or whatever you want to call it. I'm also addicted to food. I can't help myself, I have to eat every minute of everyday.

I don't know what is wrong with me. I know I could do it. I did it before, lost 5 stone on Lighter life. I was so happy I ate my way back to where i was before. Now 2 years on, I got back right where I started. People who only knew me then don't recognise me and if they do they is a look of pity in their eyes. The people who knew me before act like "hey I told you so, who can't be thin, it's you genes".

Today I can't take it anymore. I'm supposed to be on WW. Guess what I've lasted 2 weeks. I couldn't keep up, was missing all my ice cream and chocolate and s**t.

I don't know what to do. I set goals for myself and then I don't reach them only because I give up half way through. I have a cupboard full of pretty clothes that I can't wear anymore and everytime I look at them I hate myself a little bit more...

what is wrong with me, I'm there for anybody else but me.

I'm not asking for answers here but a few lights will be most welcome.

Naett
 
Well you've made the first step by coming on here. I too adore food that's not good for me, and there are very little healthy foods that I like. I used to be a size 12 air stewardess, and my eating got out of control for years, and now I'm size 22 and weigh over 19 and a half stone. :whoopass: Enough is enough for me now, I'm saying goodbye to being VERY overweight for good, slowly but surely. Have you got the points books, shopping guide etc? It's taken me weeks to control my appetite, just over a month infact. I have been constanly hungry, despite my 27 points a day. It's taken a while, but I have got used to it now. I love junk food, and I can still have it, but I have to make sure it falls within my points. Instead of bars of chocolate, I have fun size bars in the fridge etc. There's a way round everything. What I have noticed during the month I have done so far on WW, is that I'm still more or less eating the foods I normally do, but the points system seems to control the portions. I really hope you settle into WW, only you can do it, but remember we are all here for you too. I think when the time is right for you, it will click. It took a while for me to get into the frame of mind that i am no longer going to let my weight control me, and also know that there is no overnight solution. I WILL at some point start to shop in the clothes shops I like again. YOU WILL TOO. Big hugs, and welcome to the group. :welcome2:
 
Hi hun

I think you need to stop being so hard on yourself for a start. You can do this and I'm sure you will.

There is no reason why on WW you can't have chocolate and crisps and ice cream and whatever else you want to eat, you just need to make sure that it is within your points. I have crisps and chocolate everyday.

Stop setting goal for yourself or set realistic goals. Maybe the goals you have set are too much and that is what is putting you off. Aim for say 7lb targets and you might find it is not so daunting.

Have you spoken to anyone about your addiction to food. There may be an underlying issue and maybe it is worth speaking someone about it. I suppose, not wanting to sound harsh, but it really comes down to how badly you want to lose weight. Weight loss is not easy and I could have slipped and given up anytime but I haven't because I know it is now or never. How much do you want to get into those clothes?? If you want it bad enough you will get back on the wagon and you will stick to it. You have done IMO a very very difficult diet before and if you can do that then I think you can do anything.

This forum is fantastic and I think you will find all the support you need on here.

I hope that has been of some help

xx
 
Hi Hon

We all have a problem with food here - so you're in good company :)

I agree with Clare though - speak to your Doctor and demand to be referred to someone who will understand your problems.

And don't be too hard on yourself - it maybe a daunting journey but you can do it - you've proved that once :)

Twigs
xx
 
Hi Naett and welcome. You sound at the end of your tether and finding it tough - but we'll get you there.

I think we all have unhealthy eating patterns (else we wouldn't be here) so you will only ever find support and encouragement to keep going - if that's what you really want.

Good luck xxx
 
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I can totally understand!!! :(

I lost 3 1/2 stone a few years back and i was so ashamed when i put it all back on :( :( :(

the way i see it now is this is my 2nd chance and sometimes it takes some people 2 trys :)

if u make realistic goals even if it is daily goals you will do it, when i started i was bigger than you (18st 3lbs to be exact) I have lost 4 stone now and thats me over half way to my goal. the time has flew by and trust me it is worth it.

my 5 top guides to success is:

1. always think 2moro is another day, so you dont have to eat it 2day it will still be there 2moro. If you mess up your point one day as i said think 2moro is another day

2. dont deprive your self just limit your self

3. if you over eat your points it only your self your cheating at the end of the day

4. MINI GOALS= motovation! if you keep meeting your goals it will give you motovation

5. always remember its only you who can lose weight for yourself. your mum or partner can do it for you :)

hope this helps

Tracy :)
 
Hi and welcome to the WW forum. There is always plenty of support here.. You can do this but need to tell yourself you can rather than you can't. Small changes over a period of time can help you be ready for the final 'start' or other people like to dive straight in. Whichever way WW can be the route to control.

Good luck

M
 
2 great posts above say it all hon. But I just want to reinforce that it CAN be done. I have lost 9 stone on ww, and for me the fab thing with it is you don't go without. You have a little of what you fancy to keep you going. I saved my treats for the end of the day, and look forward to it all day!
For me, learning to like myself has been the most important part of the journey. I am realising that gradually this has happened, and its made me realise that a big part of my weight problem was that I just didn't care at all about me!
I know you will beat this, and wish you huge amounts of luck with the journey.
 
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