driving myself crazy because of my mum!

ok all just gonna moan to my teeth because my mother!

she has cause me loads of problems over the last two years that now she not in my life -
she have a bad habit of be jealous of everything everyone as got and trys to break up everyone - (me and my partner mostly at the moment) she even tried it with my sisters and brothers!

but she made up some lie to get everyone on her side and cause so many problems between me and partner - that i told her to get out my life!

which she phone me the other week and said she as another daughter (my brothers girlfriend) and that she been a better daughter to her then i have been!

i am so mad but upset that a same time!
and now she tells me she has breast cancer and i hate her for what she said!
but then she tells me she might have breast cancer and that she have found a lump! - eg there is cancer cells there or something!

well thanks all for letting me maon like hell! :cry:
and now i want to foirgive her but i hate her too - two years of hell and then she wants me to be nice!

her and my partner will never see eye to eye again let alone stand in the same room - before killing each other so that make it worst for me when there at each other like tigers fighting!

sounds like she knows how to hurt you eh? has she catually got breast cancer or has she just found a lump cos it isn't exactly the same thing. sounds like a guilt trip to me. if she has then obviously that's terrible, but it doesn't mean you can suddenly forgive all the bad stuff. i'm sure it'll work itself out in the end. sometimes just having a moan helps!

Hi Ann,

Your under no allusion as to what your mother is capable of. So with that in mind ask yourself do you want a relationship with her and what kind of one you want and let it be on your terms.

This is your choice.

As Jen has said a lump in the breast does not always mean cancer.

Your partner is detached so therefore more able to warn you if and how manipulative your mother is being towards you, so I would listen to him and to your own heart and come to some sort of neutral ground if possible.

You can forgive the sinner, but that does not mean you have to forgive the sin.

Big hugs.

Love Mini xxx

Is she going through the menopause?

thanks guys - i try and keep my head up but i am stil very mad and upset i can't belive a mother can be so nasty that times!
i have tried 4 times to let her back in my life and she keeps cause me problems - i wish i can solve it!

but the only way looks like out my life!

i don't think she is she in her 50's - but even if she was there is no need her to do the things she have been doing for way over two years ! - or is there?
because even if you down depressed and feel crap surely there a limit to how far you go to?

thanks everyone x