The things people say

We all have some diamond comment someone has said to us in the past
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shame she's big! she has a pretty face though!


my corker is when on holiday one year i was jiving to some bloke singing elvis well i was drunk! a guy came up to me and said hay! you can dance for a fat bird can't you ..he was actually being serious and thought i'd take it as a compliment hmmmmm
love to hear yours ..

debz x

lol theres always someone who doesnt know the art of sublety eh??

well in the past i had this comment and excuse me for the blunteness of it- " wowww your ti*s are perfect, what happened with the a**??"

yes- very nice indeed! glad to report everything in is proportion now

actually you hit the nail on head with mine. the thing i hear over and over again is ... but you've such a pretty face ... which in itself is lovely to hear but the undertone of "shame about the rest tho" is screaming out of people.

could be worse so i've made my peace with that! xx

I don't think I've had any! Maybe ppl are scared the big fat woman will eat them! hehehe

i was at my heaviest, almost 15 and half stone. went out to a club, got extremely drunk and was walking to get a taxi when this lad, he was no more than 18, said ur a bit big aren't u. i was so hurt i just walked off and started crying. know its not the worst thing thats been said but it really hurt me as i felt so bad about myself. thinking back i shouldve told him what an ugly little runt he was but you dont think till after.

really dont understand why any1 would wana make some1 else feel bad and down about something theyre obviously already aware off. can understand if its at school cuz kids are cruel and dont think but adults should know better.

i wish all them nasty people put on a shed load of weight and never lose it, maybe then theyll know how it feels when a complete stranger tells u how big/fat u look.

In school i used to get called Titanic Tanya .... very very hurtfull and still to this day when i see the little runt that said that to me almost everysingle day i wana smack him in the head!

Thing is .... i was the size i am now when i was in school so i was hardly at my biggest and yet i still got called titanic tanya

Well i have always been known for having a larger than average rear end!! All the ladies in my family are the same, even the skinny mini that is my sister.

One (while out with my hubby too) i was getting out of the car, and 2 guys were walking past, one turned to his friend and said whoooh nice arse...shame about the face :O

I was so upset. Mark nearly started a riot, and told them how dare they say things like that etc etc...very brave of him, he's only a wee man bless him. But bless him for sticking up for me.

that was years ago but i'll never forget it.

Some guy would sing, Roll out the barrel, followed by you fat b*****d each time I saw him in a nightclub. I was about 5 stone lighter than I am now.....

Grrrrr Rooooooooar! Sorry I read this post because things like this make me so angry! I wanna go kick everyone who was mean to you heads in! They only say things like that because they're seriously lacking in their lives. They have to be mean to make themselves feel better about themseleves because they're losers. Pity them, as they'll die sad, lonely, bitter desparados.

I can honestly say that no one has ever said anything mean to me (to my face anyhow) I think I have the look of a psycho, so maybe they're scared! Oops I lie - My loving Father is always saying 'Look at my baby, isn't she beautiful, she could be a model if she wasn't so big!' Nice eh, he really knows how to make me feel good about myself!

Got called thunder thighs by the office cleaner once which was not nice. Never had slim thighs but thunder thighs was a bit harsh!!!!

My family always used to make comments that I needed to watch my weight and not have dessert etc. Then now I've started to lose weight they want me to stop/don't approve of lipotrim! Luckily I live alone so don't have anyone forcing meals down me.

Another thing that sticks in my mind (and this is SO stupid that I let this get to me) is at my cousin's 21st in January, a 6 year old boy said to me, completely out of the blue, "you're chubby". I thought I heard wrong and said "what?" and he said "you're chubby, look at your arms". I was honestly so upset and was going through the lowest point of my depression at that point and just burst into tears. I know he is just a kid but still! It hurt!

Can't believe it took me until the middle of summer to decide I wanted to do something about myself!

As for everyone elses stories - some people are just so mean and thoughtless... do they not realise that fat people have feelings too?!

BetsyBotox said:

Grrrrr Rooooooooar! Sorry I read this post because things like this make me so angry! I wanna go kick everyone who was mean to you heads in! They only say things like that because they're seriously lacking in their lives. They have to be mean to make themselves feel better about themseleves because they're losers. Pity them, as they'll die sad, lonely, bitter desparados.

I can honestly say that no one has ever said anything mean to me (to my face anyhow) I think I have the look of a psycho, so maybe they're scared! Oops I lie - My loving Father is always saying 'Look at my baby, isn't she beautiful, she could be a model if she wasn't so big!' Nice eh, he really knows how to make me feel good about myself!

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grrr my dad once introduced me to some work colleagues at a rugby match as "my little prop forward". for those of you that know rugby, that aint very nice!! i was only 7. :cry:

I guess I've been lucky like Betsybotox & Blackrose in that I've never had anything said to my face? I've always compensated for my size by being everyone's 'best friend'- you know, the earth mother kind of person people go to for comfort/support/advice etc.? So I've never had anything negative said to me- well, apart from family's 'well-meaning' comments about my size affecting my health & my GP's lecture at my annual check-up, but I never passed any remarks of them! LOL! Plus- they can't say that anymore! Who-hoo!!!

I have suffered some of these complaints and not so much from strangers but from people I love.

A man that I knew very well and we had a bit of thing together, used to say to me " lose a few stones and you will be perfect !!, you are so pretty but you are not what turns me on " yet I was still good enough to be a very close friend to him when he wanted 'it'!!!. He confessed one day that he was afraid to introduce me to his friends because he was scared of what they might say about my size to him - but it backfired because they all thought that I was gorgeous and couldn't understand why he had not introduced me before.

Most of these remarks don't bother me much as they are from people who cannot understand what its like to be big, but the latest one really hurt me badly - but it was from my nephew who is only 5 so he does not really know what it means but he said - " you cannot come on the airplane to spain with us because you are too fat" It did make me cry at the time, but then a couple of weeks later I got a homemade card from him saying "To my Slim Aunty" Kids don't you just love 'em.

oh i have another, from my 5 yr old daughter of all people.
about 2months ago i was wearing shorts round the house, she said mommy why are ur legs so big? not like daddy is big (tall) big that way (wide) i told her mommy needs to lose some weight and they wouldnt be this big for long, she said is that cuz ur fat. i was so hurt, went upstairs and cried that my baby thinks im fat. hubby and i had a good chat with her later and made sure she knew not to say mean things.
i'll be thin soon hopefully

x x

That saying is so true - We always hurt the ones we love. Our families/friends/people we're close to say these things without thinking about how much they hurt! We know we're fat, we know we could do with losing weight, we know we'd be healthier a few stone lighter, we know we'd be much prettier! We don't need it rammed down our bloody throats!

They do it as a shock factor, they do it because they 'love' us and want us to be fit, happy and healthy. What they don't understand is that the more people tell you that you're fat, useless, ugly etc, the more you start to believe it and think 'What's the point' It has the opposite effect. You stay the same in defiance, thinking that being fat is all you're worth and why should you loss weight to please them. What they don't understand is that you have to do this for yourself. You have to want to change your life because you want want to. Not because some ignorant sod thinks you should!

Jools that man (I use the term loosely) is a complete asshole. You are much too precious to have spent any time with him.

Wooohooo girls soon enough we will be absolutely gorgeous with an added bonus of a kind, considerate heart. We'll be able to face these people with huge grins and a little wiggles. We'll not need words because we'll have confidence that speaks volumes.

IrishMum said:

I guess I've been lucky like Betsybotox & Blackrose in that I've never had anything said to my face? I've always compensated for my size by being everyone's 'best friend'- you know, the earth mother kind of person people go to for comfort/support/advice etc.? So I've never had anything negative said to me- well, apart from family's 'well-meaning' comments about my size affecting my health & my GP's lecture at my annual check-up, but I never passed any remarks of them! LOL! Plus- they can't say that anymore! Who-hoo!!!

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Are people over here more polite? Or are they just two faced gits!?

BetsyBotox said:

Are people over here more polite? Or are they just two faced gits!?

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I never thought of that!! Damn- there was me getting all cocky that I was loved unquestioningly....ah well....

BetsyBotox said:

Wooohooo girls soon enough we will be absolutely gorgeous with an added bonus of a kind, considerate heart. We'll be able to face these people with huge grins and a little wiggles. We'll not need words because we'll have confidence that speaks volumes.

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you carry on like that Betsy and you'll have Gok Wan out of a job! xxxx

Jools that man (I use the term loosely) is a complete asshole. You are much too precious to have spent any time with him.

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I quite agree Betsy - Fortunately I dont see him anymore - though I do send him texts to tell him how much I have lost - just to see if he responds. I really would love to appear on his doorstep when I am at goal and say " look what you are missing out on, not only am I a lovely person inside but am even more of a lovely person on the outside" Given the number of times he drifts back in and out of my life I might just be able to do that one day