is food ur friend or the enemy??

bex! · 5 September 2009

ok so im only on day 4 but its bin tough this time.

i went shoppin in town with my friends an had 2 make excuses bout why i didnt want lunch (my friends dont understand why i wana do the diet an try an make me eat) so ive not told em im back on it. :sigh:

then coz was surrounded my pie shops an choc etc an wnted 2 eat got abit upset wen came home an ad a cry.:cry:

i didnt get why i was so upset but then my mum sed its coz im not eatin an this is the bodies way of gettin u bk on food. i then replied wots the point coz food is the one 'friend' i cud rely on to make me feel better wen im sad an my mum sed how can it be ur friend wen its makin u fat an causin u health problems?

i had no answer to that coz i realised food isnt my friend an by turnin it into 1 i had become my own worst enemy.

its gona b tough but ive gota find different outlets 4 wen times get hard or im avin an off day.

i want 2 start living!! :girlpower:

irish molly · 6 September 2009

I sympathise completely.I am on day five and just getting through my first weekend. Weekends for me have always been about food-where is lunch going to be,sunday lunch,saturday night wine etc etc. So I have found the weekend tough so far but everytime I weaken I just grab my waterbottle. The water is helping.
I just try to keep focussed on the fact that I want to get to healthy weight for myself,not for anyone else.
Once i get there then food in moderation will be my friend. right now it is the enemy but one I know I will beat!!! Hang tough!!

bigwelshboy · 6 September 2009

i was the same used food as a friend every time i was sad but i now know it was my enemy and it made me think i must have been sad alot to get into this state but now on a recovery and a new life ahead it may take a year or more but its only 1 year out off my life time ,i just started LT yesterday but feeling good so far and can't wait for my first weigh in,for when times get tough i have put a few photos together so i can see why i am doing this and focus on my goal you can do the same and just think of the result

and of course this site is amazing and good luck on your journey.

Determined Girl · 6 September 2009

I think you've had the 'realisation' that all of us on LT get.

The sheer MISERY of the first few days is horrendous. All you can think about is food and how much you're missing it. It feels like 'just one bite' of a big bacon buttie would make you so happy.

But then....when you've been cold turkey for a few days you start to realise that it's not like that really...and that the truth is when we overeat we are sadistically punishing and hurting ourselves for whatever reason.

Eating to the point of obesity; making ourselves unattractive and unhealthy- what kind of 'friendship' is that. Your Mum was absolutely right and you're going to get through feeling unhappy and beat it.

I think that on other diets I'm always thinking about saving points or using 'sins' and my outlook has never been right. I've never had the time 'away' from food to think about WHY I have made it an enemy and just how destructive I'm being by shoving endless bags of crisps down my throat.

I'm not saying LT is some miracle cure... but it does give us the time to re-evaluate our eating behaviour. You wouldn't expect a heroin addict to quit whilst 'cutting back' on their drug. I feel it's the same for food. Going 'cold turkey' is soooooooo hard. But in the long run...it's going to be the making of us.

Stay positive- you WILL get through this. And maybe...after your first weigh in....tell your friends. Explain how important it is and if they're real friends they will support you and understand.

x

bex! · 6 September 2009

Determined Girl said:
I think you've had the 'realisation' that all of us on LT get.

The sheer MISERY of the first few days is horrendous. All you can think about is food and how much you're missing it. It feels like 'just one bite' of a big bacon buttie would make you so happy.

But then....when you've been cold turkey for a few days you start to realise that it's not like that really...and that the truth is when we overeat we are sadistically punishing and hurting ourselves for whatever reason.

Eating to the point of obesity; making ourselves unattractive and unhealthy- what kind of 'friendship' is that. Your Mum was absolutely right and you're going to get through feeling unhappy and beat it.

I think that on other diets I'm always thinking about saving points or using 'sins' and my outlook has never been right. I've never had the time 'away' from food to think about WHY I have made it an enemy and just how destructive I'm being by shoving endless bags of crisps down my throat.

I'm not saying LT is some miracle cure... but it does give us the time to re-evaluate our eating behaviour. You wouldn't expect a heroin addict to quit whilst 'cutting back' on their drug. I feel it's the same for food. Going 'cold turkey' is soooooooo hard. But in the long run...it's going to be the making of us.

Stay positive- you WILL get through this. And maybe...after your first weigh in....tell your friends. Explain how important it is and if they're real friends they will support you and understand.

x

thank you so much for that. its really put it all into perspective for me. i didnt realise wot a downwud spiral i was on until i had to get even bigger pants an wen i looked in the mirror i counldnt believe that person was me.

my mum sed this mornin i av 2 fink of the bigger picture its less than a yr of my life to finally sort myself out, to be happy wiv my weight an get my confidence back (i now second guess myself all the time).

mum also asked me which do i wnt more 2 sit in my room alone wiv a bar of chocolate or to finally go out wiv friends shoppin an clubbin wivout finkin how gross i am an ruinin my night. its a no brainer there.

thanks for al the support guys, really appreciated an so glad i found this site.

pestydebz · 6 September 2009

Food is my enemy and has been for 10 years
i was in bed last night and i think it finally clicked food is just fuel and i'v been over filling my engine

been fe-feeding for a week and ate very healthy normal food and lost one and a half pounds still so when i start eating again food will always be my enemy not a crutch to get me through the day i will just remember what being overweight did to my life
i do love food but the feeling of being thin will ge more than a few mouthfulls of short pleasures that don't last

debz x

Determined Girl · 6 September 2009

pestydebz said:
Food is my enemy and has been for 10 years
i was in bed last night and i think it finally clicked food is just fuel and i'v been over filling my engine been fe-feeding for a week and ate very healthy normal food and lost one and a half pounds still so when i start eating again food will always be my enemy not a crutch to get me through the day i will just remember what being overweight did to my life
i do love food but the feeling of being thin will ge more than a few mouthfulls of short pleasures that don't last

debz x

Very well said hun x

thefutureisbright · 6 September 2009

Hey,

Keep on thinking that way and you will find the process so much easier, you will soon ENJOY being on LT!

It will be tough for the first week or two, but once you see how much weight you lose it will keep you going, then it will just become natural, and you will watch people eating pies and chocolate and you will not even be tempted!!!!

You only get one life, its a shame to spend it feeling down in the dumps about how you look. Your mum sounds like a great mum! Keep listening to her, as she wants the best for you and knows that this is the best thing you can do to have the best life.

Can I ask you if your friends are also over weight?

x

bex! · 6 September 2009

thefutureisbright said:
Hey,

Keep on thinking that way and you will find the process so much easier, you will soon ENJOY being on LT!

It will be tough for the first week or two, but once you see how much weight you lose it will keep you going, then it will just become natural, and you will watch people eating pies and chocolate and you will not even be tempted!!!!

You only get one life, its a shame to spend it feeling down in the dumps about how you look. Your mum sounds like a great mum! Keep listening to her, as she wants the best for you and knows that this is the best thing you can do to have the best life.

Can I ask you if your friends are also over weight?

x

out of my 3 main friends 2 r sizes 8-10 but still eat rubbish, just not as much as i did but my other friend is a big girl, id say 3st or more over my weight an i dnt like to go on bout my weight infront of her coz dnt wnt her 2 fink im judgin her coz im not its me im not happy wiv but if she fine wiv herself thats gr8. plus me an my friend started eatin out alot if we had free time an avin calorie laden starters, mains an desserts. not gud on the waistline. :sigh:

so glad its gona get easier tho, i wnt 2 get to the stage where i dnt care if ppl r eatin i can just do summat else.

im sick of food controllin my life, i used to plan my day round my food. not gud at all. where to eat an wen an even whilst eatin i was plannin 4 l8r.

the other turnin point 4 me was that i was neglectin other areas of my life (even somethin as simple as cleanin my room) coz was so preoccupied wiv food plus it was startin 2 really drain me.

thanks 4 advice guys, its really helpin me stick 2 it by avin this support network.

thefutureisbright · 6 September 2009

bex! said:
out of my 3 main friends 2 r sizes 8-10 but still eat rubbish, just not as much as i did but my other friend is a big girl, id say 3st or more over my weight an i dnt like to go on bout my weight infront of her coz dnt wnt her 2 fink im judgin her coz im not its me im not happy wiv but if she fine wiv herself thats gr8. plus me an my friend started eatin out alot if we had free time an avin calorie laden starters, mains an desserts. not gud on the waistline. :sigh:

so glad its gona get easier tho, i wnt 2 get to the stage where i dnt care if ppl r eatin i can just do summat else.

im sick of food controllin my life, i used to plan my day round my food. not gud at all. where to eat an wen an even whilst eatin i was plannin 4 l8r.

the other turnin point 4 me was that i was neglectin other areas of my life (even somethin as simple as cleanin my room) coz was so preoccupied wiv food plus it was startin 2 really drain me.

thanks 4 advice guys, its really helpin me stick 2 it by avin this support network.

Hey, you really seem to have your head in the right place. Sometimes we all need to feel like we have got to rock bottom before we make a life changing decision to make things better. They say it either comes from inspiration or desperation.

I lost my weight cos I had to, I was sick of being over weight, and feeling bad about myself.

Keep going, it is hard, expect it to be hard, and be strong and ready for it, you need to be positive and strong. Don't feel sorry for yourself or feel like you are depriving yourself. Feel like you are freeing yourself, for once and for all, you are making the change that will make you who you really want to be.

In a few weeks it will be easy, that's all it takes for you to win the battle! After 3 weeks you will be flying and be noticing the benefits.

3 weeks is a very short time in your life.

You can do this.

x

Determined Girl · 6 September 2009

bex! said:
out of my 3 main friends 2 r sizes 8-10 but still eat rubbish, just not as much as i did but my other friend is a big girl, id say 3st or more over my weight an i dnt like to go on bout my weight infront of her coz dnt wnt her 2 fink im judgin her coz im not its me im not happy wiv but if she fine wiv herself thats gr8. plus me an my friend started eatin out alot if we had free time an avin calorie laden starters, mains an desserts. not gud on the waistline. :sigh:

so glad its gona get easier tho, i wnt 2 get to the stage where i dnt care if ppl r eatin i can just do summat else.

im sick of food controllin my life, i used to plan my day round my food. not gud at all. where to eat an wen an even whilst eatin i was plannin 4 l8r.

the other turnin point 4 me was that i was neglectin other areas of my life (even somethin as simple as cleanin my room) coz was so preoccupied wiv food plus it was startin 2 really drain me.

thanks 4 advice guys, its really helpin me stick 2 it by avin this support network.

WOW. It could be ME speaking. I was exactly the same...food just RULED my life. And my room has never been tidier than right now!!

x

is food ur friend or the enemy??

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