Completely NO willpower.

Want2bethin

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I started CD about 3 weeks ago, completely failed on day 2.
Then i started fresh again a week later, Failed on the first day.

I have all the sachets in, i have ditched my old CDC, as she wasn't even slightly supportive or even helpful, and i am trying to get in touch with a new lady, who has brill reviews and only lives 2 minutes away from me.
I desperately need to lose this weight, it brings me down to my lowest, i seriously can't deal with it. Yet, my lack of willpower is completely stopping me. I would do ANYTHING to actually do this, ANYTHING. How do i get through this? Surely there is something to help me once i start again.. i know it only takes ME to lose the weight and my willpower, but its sooo hard.
Do any of you lovely ladys/gents have any advice?
I am deeply struggling.
 
i have been the same as you only i lasted 4 weeks then started cheating, im just going to keep on trying and trying hun xxx
 
I don't see what I have as willpower - more determination not to stay as fat as I am. I know that I have to do something and judging by people's losses on here it happens quickly.

If you try and take it hour by hour, day by day rather than looking at it as a whole then you might find you can do it. The first few days were the hardest for me - I spent a lot of time on here looking for inspiration (and found it!). At the end of the week with a loss of more than I have achieved after weeks of any other diet in recent years, I found that I wanted to stick with it. It's not easy - I'm craving food today - but it works if you do stick with it.

I do believe though that the time has to be right for you - I'm not sure I could have done this 6 months ago for instance. I just had reached breaking point and HAD to do something about my weight. Maybe you are not at that point just yet - or perhaps this diet doesn't suit you and you would be better off on another less stringent diet.

Hope this is helpful - don't want to sound at all critical:)
 
Hi there,

Last year I restarted, and restarted and cheated and cheated and then gave up. Ice moose posted a really good note somewhere on the FAQS thread, essentially pointing out the two types of people who do VLCD. Those who see these diets as a prison stopping them from having a life and those who choose to do this diet, choose to say no to nibbles and choose to loose weight quickly.

I found it inspiring. Thankfully I have a really good reason to loose this weight this time (an operation ;0() so if I can't stick this time round then I'll never do it. I have it in my headspace not to cheat and have restarted properly, no bars, no drink flavourings etc. but to be honest this forum is a goodsend: praise when needed, a kick up the bum when required lol, I am only on day one but feeling pretty positive.

Good luck on your journey

AM
 
Im so sorry you feel the way you do, its very hard to get through, but for me, i kind of told myself i wasnt allowed food, in a way that your not allowed to take things thaqt dont belong to you or hit someone, i make it a real offence for me to do, not sure if this is helping any but thats how i stayed in the straight and narrow, to start with a looked at cd products as medicine that will make me better, and i knew it was going to work, now because i have been on it for a while, it has just become a way of life, just think how good you will feel if you get through a whole week staying good, its a great feeling, and its there for the taking, swap those negative thoughts of i cant do it, to positive ones, you will feel great i promise.

I have prob not helped at all, but keep trying best of luck hunny.
 
I started on 810 (having tried ss last yr) and it's amazing. I've loved all of it. Now on 1000 and i've done pretty well. I knew for me taking food out wasn't going to work for me and that i'd rather be on CD a little longer on 810 and get to goal. I am choosing to do this for me and I am loving the results: the skinny jeans, mini skirts, t-shirt dresses and leggings, being called skinny, being called tiny, feeling like a whole new me and being proud of myself.

What ever route you choose to take, always keep you goals in focus. Small steps, mini goals, loads of water and mint tea :)

You can do this hun and use this forum to get you there. this site has been the biggest part of CD for me, really it has . Good luck x
 
the way i did it at the beginning to get through the first few days was constantly ask myself...now do i want to eat that, or do i want to be slim? and everytime i would tell myself that slim was more of an insentive than the 3 minutes of pleasure i would have got from eating....
its all about long term goals, whether they be for 1 day (as compared to 3 min that is long term).....
Also, i handled CD the way one would quit smoking....
Get to lunchtime, then get through day one....then day 2....and writing down how i felt at lunchtime, the end of day 1 and day 2....the cravings, the hunger, the headaches etc...made me realise that it wasnt an experience i EVER wanted to go through again!
Once you a) want it badly enough and b) train yourself not to eat, then it will all fall into place!
i hope you find that place hun, i was the most cynical of "newbies" when i went to see my CD...."never going to happen" i think my words were to my CD....and now, i have my week 12 weigh in this morning, have lost over 4 stone and 3 dress sizes!

and do you know why...BECUASE I'M WORTH IT!!!!! Worth it a lot more than food ever is!
xxx
 
I started CD about 3 weeks ago, completely failed on day 2.
Then i started fresh again a week later, Failed on the first day.

I have all the sachets in, i have ditched my old CDC, as she wasn't even slightly supportive or even helpful, and i am trying to get in touch with a new lady, who has brill reviews and only lives 2 minutes away from me.
I desperately need to lose this weight, it brings me down to my lowest, i seriously can't deal with it. Yet, my lack of willpower is completely stopping me. I would do ANYTHING to actually do this, ANYTHING. How do i get through this? Surely there is something to help me once i start again.. i know it only takes ME to lose the weight and my willpower, but its sooo hard.
Do any of you lovely ladys/gents have any advice?
I am deeply struggling.

What happened, was it kitchen-picking between sachets, or caved in to a scrummy-looking meal?
 
Hey there, sorry you are struggling....we all do it...want so much one thing but seem unable to do the things that will make it right.You might want to check out CDC Icemoose, who is very experienced (and successful)with CD who does a blog and newsletter........he gives out great information. I get his weekly newsletter which has great insight into all isssues with the emotional mindset of weightloss. I will try and get you the link to his website. Don't give up.
 
I started CD about 3 weeks ago, completely failed on day 2.
Then i started fresh again a week later, Failed on the first day.

I have all the sachets in, i have ditched my old CDC, as she wasn't even slightly supportive or even helpful, and i am trying to get in touch with a new lady, who has brill reviews and only lives 2 minutes away from me.
I desperately need to lose this weight, it brings me down to my lowest, i seriously can't deal with it. Yet, my lack of willpower is completely stopping me. I would do ANYTHING to actually do this, ANYTHING. How do i get through this? Surely there is something to help me once i start again.. i know it only takes ME to lose the weight and my willpower, but its sooo hard.
Do any of you lovely ladys/gents have any advice?
I am deeply struggling.

Hiya ;-)

First question I always ask people when working 1-2-1 is WHY do you want to be slim, what is the reason and what is the goal. And it should always be for a positive reason so it is fun along the way!

For me I set my goal on having a great holiday being slim and concentrated for the first time in 20 years on what I wanted and not what I didn't want. On every diet I did before that I was dieting because I NEEDED to, it was when I dieted because I WANTED to and had a fun target in the future that I suddenly suceeded.

The key is to make it fun! And to concentrate on the future and not the diet problems in the past!

Eyes on the prize was always my motto!

GO FOR IT!

Mike
 
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